divvi · guide

“They won't join” is three different problems.

Before anything else, figure out which one you actually have — because two of them are smaller than they feel, and the third deserves a straight answer instead of a workaround.

Problem one · most common

They're avoiding the email, not the divorce

An invite email about a divorce is easy to leave unopened. Joining costs them nothing — no account fee, about fifteen minutes — and they can read every document before signing anything. A text with the link, from you, lands differently than an email from a website. The link never expires.

Copy your invite link from the dashboard →
Problem two · smaller than it feels

They'll participate — they just don't agree with you yet

That's not a reason to stay off the case. “Uncontested” means you agree at the end, not the beginning — and disagreeing inside divvi is better than disagreeing over text messages, because every draft is on the table where you both can see it. When one issue won't move, that's exactly what mediation is for: divviResolve works with each of you privately for $500, and a live session with a Utah mediator is there if you want a human — with the $500 credited.

How mediation worksFree: the mediation screener
Problem three · the straight answer

They truly won't engage at all

Utah doesn't let one person's silence stop a divorce. The path runs through formal service — a process server or sheriff delivers the papers — and if they never respond within the deadline, the case can move forward without them. But that is a different process from the cooperative one divvi's wizard builds, with its own forms, its own rules, and more ways to get it wrong.

Honestly: divvi doesn't cover that path yet. We'd rather tell you that here than let you find out three forms in.

Utah's free legal helplines can walk you through service and what comes after, and the court's own self-help center handles these questions every day. Everything you've entered in divvi stays saved — if your spouse comes around later, you pick up where you left off.

Free Utah legal helplines — and what to ask them →

This page explains how the process works in general — it isn't legal advice about your case, and divvi can't tell you which path to take. For that, talk to a Utah attorney or one of the free helplines above.