Before anything else, figure out which one you actually have — because two of them are smaller than they feel, and the third deserves a straight answer instead of a workaround.
An invite email about a divorce is easy to leave unopened. Joining costs them nothing — no account fee, about fifteen minutes — and they can read every document before signing anything. A text with the link, from you, lands differently than an email from a website. The link never expires.
Copy your invite link from the dashboard →That's not a reason to stay off the case. “Uncontested” means you agree at the end, not the beginning — and disagreeing inside divvi is better than disagreeing over text messages, because every draft is on the table where you both can see it. When one issue won't move, AI negotiation (Divvi Resolve) is included free with contested divorce, and divorce mediation is there if you want a live mediator.
Utah doesn't let one person's silence stop a divorce. The path runs through formal service — a process server or sheriff delivers the papers — and if they never respond within the deadline, the case can move forward without them. But that is a different process from the cooperative one divvi's wizard builds, with its own forms, its own rules, and more ways to get it wrong.
Honestly: divvi doesn't cover that path yet. We'd rather tell you that here than let you find out three forms in.
Utah's free legal helplines can walk you through service and what comes after, and the court's own self-help center handles these questions every day. Everything you've entered in divvi stays saved — if your spouse comes around later, you pick up where you left off.
Free Utah legal helplines — and what to ask them →This page explains how the process works in general — it isn't legal advice about your case, and divvi can't tell you which path to take. For that, talk to a Utah attorney or one of the free helplines above.
"They won't join" is three different problems and only one of them is serious. They may simply be slow to click — an invite email about a divorce is easy to leave unopened, and a text with the link from you lands differently than an email from a website. They may be willing to participate but disagree with you on something, which is not a reason to stay off the case. Or they may be genuinely refusing. Work out which one you have before deciding anything, because the first two are not refusals.
Yes. "Uncontested" means you agree at the end, not that you agreed at the start. A spouse who will participate but wants a different outcome on one issue is a normal uncontested case with one open question — and one open question is exactly what mediation is for. Nothing you have already settled is lost because one thing is unresolved.
Utah does not let one person's silence stop a divorce. The path runs through formal service of process and, if they still do not respond, a request for default judgment — the court can grant the divorce on your petition alone. It is a different and slower route than an agreed divorce, and it is the one place divvi will tell you plainly that it is not the whole answer: Utah's free legal helplines can walk you through service and what comes after.